Trust me when I say we’ve all been there. Planning a wedding is not for the faint of heart. It will test your sanity, the strength of your relationship and your ability to survive under an enormous amount of stress but I believe if any couple can survive planning a wedding together, you can survive most everything together. So here are a few tips one would follow if you want to come out of wedding planning in one piece.
1. Breathe! Inhale! Exhale!
Wedding Planning can be overwhelming and can consume your every thought – trust me, I KNOW! So, my first tip would be to remember to breathe! Inhale and exhale. And REPEAT as many times as it takes to get a clear head and to get to a calm state of mind. Getting all worked up over the wedding planning will not get you anywhere. Breathe. Count to 10 in your head and exhale. It works!
2. Stick to your BUDGET!
Before making ANY decisions, sit down with your significant other and make a budget for your BIG DAY! Once you’ve decided on how much you’re willing to spend on your wedding, STICK TO THE BUDGET! The temptation to overspend and buy unnecessary items for your day will arise. Give yourself as many pep talks as needed to keep yourself on budget! It’s hard and the temptations are real, but you got this!
3. Be Faithful with your SAVING!
Weddings are EXPENSIVE and when you’re in the process of planning a wedding, your money seems to go to nothing but the wedding. Remember, especially if you’re paying for your own wedding, to be FAITHFUL with your savings! It’s easy to get wrapped up in paying for your wedding that you forget to save money for what comes next – life. Try to save for your future – whether it’s for your first home together, first (second or third) child, etc.
4. Be True to YOURSELF!
Remember, this is YOUR day! When it comes to planning a wedding, everyone will have their own image of how your day should go. Ignore them. This is YOUR wedding day so the quicker you realize you won’t be able to please everyone, the happier you will be with the decisions you make concerning your day. Don’t turn your wedding day into a day that doesn’t reflect who you are as an individual or who you are as a couple just to please a couple individuals.
5. Brush it Off!
When it comes to wedding planning, you will quickly learn that EVERYONE has their own opinions and they’re NOT afraid to bombard you with them. So instead of getting overwhelmed and letting these opinions consume you, BRUSH THEM OFF! It’s easier said than done but once you’ve brushed a few opinions off, it’ll get easier and you’ll feel SO much lighter.
6. Remember – It’s ONE day!
When it comes to your season of wedding planning, it’ll be all too easy for you to become all consumed with your special day. Remember, it’s ONE day out of the rest of your lives together. It’s okay if things don’t go as wanted and it’s okay to take a step back and consume yourself with something else for the time being.
7. Expect the UNEXPECTED!
Nothing in life ever goes as expected so try to avoid putting that pressure on your BIG DAY! The sooner you come to terms with the fact that there will be a minor mishap somewhere during your special day, you will release some of that stress you’ve been bottling up and you won’t sweat the small stuff. It took this perfectionist some time to come to terms with this, but it worked wonders for my stress level and my relationship with my husband.
8. Compromise!
Like everything else in life, there MUST be some give and take during the wedding planning – it’s called COMPROMISE! It’s so easy for one individual to become consumed in what “HE or SHE” wants that the other individual in the relationship often gets overlooked. Try to remember to let your significant other in on the wedding planning – if you choose the color scheme, let them choose what their part of the wedding party wears, etc. Let them be a part of the decision making and make it known that they have a VOICE in the wedding planning. It’s NOT “your” day! It’s Y’ALLS” day!
9. Prepare Yourself for the “Whatever You Want” Response
I can’t tell you how many times I received this response from my husband. It was aggravating at times because I did want HIS opinion but once you accept that this may not be your significant other’s strong suit, the response won’t come off as he/she doesn’t care but more like they don’t have an educated opinion and would like to default to you.
10. Take a STEP BACK!
If the wedding planning becomes all too much to handle, take that sweet step back and take a break from the madness. I can’t tell you how many times I got overwhelmed and took a step back for a couple days… sometimes a couple weeks. It allows you to clear your mind and rest. That way when you’re ready to tackle the next item on your wedding list, you’re well rested and have a positive mindset.
11. Enjoy Your WEDDING DAY!
If you’ve successfully completed these tips (or the majority of them) your wedding day should be a dream come true. A stress-free environment with the love of your life right by your side. And all the stress, sleepless nights and overwhelming chaos that consumed your life during your wedding planning period will seem like a thing of the past.
Love,
Cass Nicole
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